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Many working women
claim that "work is more fun" than their second job of maintaining a home,
family, and relationships and coping with the emotional stress that comes from working in
a man’s world.
In the workplace,
both men and women play a survival game, judged predominantly by male standards of
production. All workers are socialized into behaving like men and treating others like
men. This is believed necessary to meet the goals of production.
When women return
home, they face the challenge of finding a rewarding feminine role. As a result, women
retain their on-the-job, male-oriented behaviors long after leaving work. Often, they wish
they could slip into their femininity with the ease of putting on an attractive dress.
Instead, they find themselves staring into a closet full of man-tailored suits.
Whereas previous
generations of women knew and valued feminine ways, today the "feminine culture"
is devalued and in danger of being lost. Does it matter? Or do we need, more than ever,
cultural standards for women that they can identify with and embrace, and that do not
subject them to labels of "inferior"?
In an environment
where women lose their pride in being female, and also feminine, values become distorted.
Our production-filled days crowd out relationships, family and social activities. Perhaps
the GNP goes up faster, but it does so at a price. We see higher divorce rates, more
crime, more latchkey children, and more people needing institutionalized "care"
in an overly logical and feeling-deprived world. Sadly, as the appreciation of feminine
qualities diminishes, both men and women of all ages suffer the consequences. No winner
emerges.
There are
solutions to this challenge. We can begin by acknowledging outside of work the value of
the feminine standards which accurately portray the female as different, but in every
sense equal to the male. We can embrace relationship role models for both men and women
that can be "changed into" with pride at the end of the business day.
Today, men can
still retain their masculine roles as they transition from work to home. Yet, their road
is not necessarily smoother. All day long, working women are competing with, and
displacing them at work. The men then return to a home life in which they must
struggle—alongside the women—to adopt roles suitable for family and
relationship, or risk being labeled as unnecessary and too masculine.
In a true win/win
game, both genders will lose—or win—in the game of life together. And too often,
neither gender feels as if it is winning.
This book contains
a game, and also a description of men and women who are willing to explore and recognize
the value of gender, without using gender as a basis of discrimination. Whether or not you
choose to see The Enchantment of
Opposites as a game or a deeper reality is up
to you.
This book was
written with the hope that gender distinctions could be seen as creating significant and
valuable diversity. We hope that this information will never be used to discriminate, and
only to understand, value, and celebrate who we are as men and women in loving
relationship with one another.
The Enchantment of Opposites reveals what we can do now to make the war between the sexes obsolete.
The book’s seven games and fifteen fundamentals create an experience of man/woman
roles and relationships far more empowering than what was available to our ancestors. I
invite you to explore the ideas and tools in this book to discover powerfully satisfying
(and enchanted!) new ways of relating.
The steps to
enchanted, win/win relating described in this book will show you how to create the great
relationship you want. I hope you will enjoy taking these steps as much as have I, my
loved ones, and my clients.
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